Where do we get the chance in our day to day lives to fully express ourselves, at full volume, with full on emotions? For most of us –nowhere!
If we grow through risk, if we gain confidence through risk, then we need to risk to keep growing and becoming more confident in our lives. And I think most of you would agree one of the most risky parts of the Mastery is the monologue –and one of the most fulfilling.
Well this past weekend I confirmed in my own mind just how scary and ENLIVENING the monologue is. Since becoming a member of back row
4 years ago (in 2004), I have not performed a monologue at a Mastery workshop — although I have taken advantage of the opportunity at most of our Mastery social events (look for an announcement of our next social event in this issue of the newsletter).
Saturday was intense -I had to keep refocusing on being present in the room –sound familiar?
At the end of the night it was my turn, nervous, sure I would forget what I wanted to say, I rushed the stage with ABANDONMENT and GLEE — on the outside, inside I was a bundle of nerves.
My intention was to not only deliver a passionate, poignant, emotional monologue — I intended to propose to the love of my life — Shilo. And not just in front of my 17 new best friends who were the participants but also about another 25 of my Mastery family including Shilo’s Mom and Sister.
Well you will have to watch the video clip to see how it went — trust me it was beyond my wildest expectation.
The laughter, the tears , the heart felt congratulations and most unexpectedly the comments of how inspired people were.
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” I was so engrossed I actually exclaimed out loud ( something I never do) “Holy Shit, he’s really going to do it.”
” I never knew their were men like you –and I am clear I deserve a man as good as you.”
” Wow, you set the bar high for me when I propose to someone — and my girlfriend is in the room.”
“Can you coach my boyfriend on how to propose.” (Just send them to Mastery)
” I laughed I cried and I was totally with you for every syllable. It felt like you moved through me with your words and your presence.”
Of course my favorite reviews were from my soon to be Mother-in-law and Sister- in -law. What man gets a review of his marriage proposal -especially from the new family?
And so many of my dearest friends — some who I had not seen in a very long time.
So take a risk, live your life to the fullest, and if you have forgotten what that looks like, and feels like, then join us at the next Mastery.
There is room for each of you on the team, either for all 3 days, or whatever moments work for you.
Of course my highest recommendation is to become an assistant ( if you have not assisted then your Mastery experience is not complete yet), and DO A MONOLOGUE –now that is living in the moment!!!
Wherever you are, what ever is happening in your life, find room for a little Mastery therapy, it is good for what ails you.
Be well,
James ![]()
P.S. I hope you enjoy watching the video clip of my monologue as much as I did performing it.





















